Domestic Violence is Real

September 21, 2021

***Names and specific details altered to protect the identity of the victims***
Jessica had been divorced about one year when she thought about dating again. This idea, almost exhausted her as she had little free time. She worked two jobs: one as a waitress and one as a part time sales clerk. She also was a single mom. Her ex-husband had moved to another state and rarely - if ever saw their two children. She was lonely. She craved adult conversation and a person to call - for no reason. She would wait on couples in the restaurant and long for a partner who wanted to take her out to eat and spoil her with flowers and gifts. Shawn was a regular at the restaurant. He was very handsome. Tall, muscular, great smile and a flirt. He always told Jessica that she looked pretty and was the best server at the place. He often asked her, "When do you get off?", but she would just smile and carry on her business. One day, Shawn came in and asked her how she was doing. Just so happens, it was a terrible day. Her electric bill was due - ($200+), her kids needed school supplies and shoes...and she had only $28.00 to her name. She normally didn't tell customers her business, but Shawn was so kind...she sort of broke down. "I'll be working all day today, because I need cash. I am in a bit of a jam...so will be a long day for me." she told him. He smiled, said that stinks and ordered his breakfast. When he left, she went to clean the table and realized that Shawn had left her a $200.00 tip - CASH! Unbelievable, no one had ever left her a tip like that. Shawn was amazing. Jessica finally agreed to a date with Shawn, and it was hands down the best date that she had ever been on. He was a gentleman, charming, funny and so attentive. He complimented her all night and even showed up at her house with flowers. SWOOON. Jessica was falling in love: hard and fast. Over the next couple of months, the relationship became more serious and she introduced Shawn to her family. No one else saw Shawn the way that she did, and frankly their opinions didn't matter. She loved him. They moved in together. One year into the relationship, Shawn wanted Jessica to quit her waitressing job. She was stressed, he made plenty of money and he didn't like the way other men would hit on her while she was working. In fact, he began hanging out at the restaurant bar every time she worked - to keep an eye on her. Shawn was starting to get very agitated when she would talk to male customers and accuse her of sleeping with them. Jessica didn't quit, but she did cut her hours. She would only work the breakfast shift from now on so Shawn wouldn't worry about the drinking crowd - and men flirting with her. Shawn also began making fun of Jessica, degrading her accomplishments and accusing her of all sorts of terrible things. If she didn't answer the phone, he would show up wherever she was - screaming and ranting. He would delete messages from her family and threaten to take his own life if she ever left. She finally got the nerve to break up and kick him out of the apartment. This is when the real abuse started: bricks through her windows, break ins to her car and home, threats to family and friends, non-stop calls to her employer and hacks into her accounts. Shawn would still show up at her work...he would vandalize her car, spit in her face and break items at the store. The police were called, but he would be long gone. No one took her complaints seriously until he tried to kill her. Jessica needed to hide from this man and escape the abuse. Thankfully, she was able to get into the local domestic violence abuse shelter until he was sent to prison. With assistance from other local organizations (funded by United Way of Wayne and Holmes) she was able to move her and her children to a new place in a new town, graduate from college and get a full time position with benefits. Every donation to United Way of Wayne and Holmes helps someone like Jessica escape a troubled path and be on the road to recovery and success. Consider a donation of any amount to Be the Light to other people just like Jessica.


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Feeding Our Future: Knights United By: Ashley Hershberger One of the things I love most about our community is that when we see a need, we don't spend much time asking whose responsibility it is. We ask, "How can we help?" That's exactly how Feeding Our Future came to be. Over the past several months, we’ve been meeting with school leaders, teachers, food pantry staff, pastors, community partners, and community members and working together to answer a simple question: How do we make sure students have access to food when school isn't in session? Beginning October 2, 2026, West Holmes Local Schools will launch Feeding Our Future in partnership with United Way Wayne and Holmes Counties, the Love Center Food Pantry, and the Akron-Canton Regional Foodbank. Here's what that looks like: Elementary students who enroll will receive take-home food bags every other Friday and before school breaks. The bags will include easy-to-prepare foods like cereal, oatmeal, soup, fruit cups, granola bars, and other kid-friendly items to help fill the gap when school meals aren't available. Middle and high school students will have access to school-based pantries where they can pick up snacks, breakfast items, weekend food, and other essentials as needed. The food bags will be assembled at West Holmes High School by volunteers from across our community. Most importantly, there are no income qualifications . Families can participate whenever support is needed and for as long as it is helpful. Because the truth is that life happens. An unexpected bill, a medical expense, changing work schedules, rising costs, or simply a difficult season can impact any family. This program exists to provide support, not judgment. Working Together This program builds on a long tradition of caring for one another in West Holmes. It's not replacing efforts like Share-A-Christmas or the work that schools, churches, food pantries, and community groups have been doing for years. It's strengthening those efforts and creating another way to support students and families. People like Natalie Eichelberger, Mindi Campbell, Bob Porter, Brandi Smith, Andrea Povick, and many others have been doing this work for years. Through backpack programs, food drives, and countless acts of kindness, they've helped make sure students and families had support when they needed it most. Feeding Our Future exists because of that foundation . As someone who grew up here, that means a lot to me. My grandma, Pat, fed generations of students as a cook at Nashville Elementary, and many members of my family have served in the district as teachers and coaches. Through them, I've learned that schools are about more than academics and athletics… they're about taking care of our people. That's exactly what this partnership is designed to do. Each organization brings something valuable to the table: West Holmes Local Schools will coordinate the program, enroll families, host pantry spaces, manage volunteers and organize packing and distribution of food. United Way Wayne and Holmes Counties will bring local partners together, raise funds, pay bills and help ensure the program remains sustainable. The Love Center Food Pantry will help source food and stretch every donated dollar as far as possible. The Akron-Canton Regional Foodbank will connect resources and provide access to food at reduced costs. A special thank you to Kiana Leppla, Dawn Martin, and Katie Schwartz , whose vision and leadership helped move this idea from conversation to reality. Thank you to Greg Long and the Akron-Canton Regional Foodbank for helping connect the right people and resources. And a big thank you to Lisa Walker at TUFF Bags and the team at United Way of Tuscarawas County . Their willingness to share their experience, answer questions, and help another community build something similar has been incredible. Because of their generosity, we're able to learn from a program that is already making a difference for thousands of students in T-County. That's what I love most about this story. Communities helping communities. Neighbors helping neighbors. How YOU Can Help One of the things that makes Feeding Our Future special is that it belongs to the community. And community support will be what keeps Feeding Our Future going. The food in these bags and pantries doesn't appear on its own. It takes volunteers, partnerships, and financial support from people who believe every child deserves the opportunity to learn, grow, and thrive. Because of our partnerships, every dollar goes further than it would at a grocery store. In fact, just $26.50 can provide weekend food for one child for an entire school year. Think about that. For the cost of a family dinner out, a child can have food support every weekend throughout the school year. That's more than food. That's peace of mind for a parent. That's one less worry for a family. That's a student who can focus on learning, playing ball, performing in a concert, hanging out with friends, and simply being a kid. That's hope. At its heart, Feeding Our Future is about food, but it's also about making sure every child knows they matter and every family knows they are supported. When a student opens a backpack on a Saturday morning, I hope they find more than food. I hope they find a reminder that an entire community believes in them. Whether you'd like to donate, sponsor, volunteer, or learn more, please visit: www.uwwh.org/feedingourfuture Questions? Please feel free to reach out to me at (330) 231-4335 or email ashley@uwwh.org . Together, we're not just filling bags. We're building hope, strengthening families, and showing our children what it means to live in a community that cares. United, We Help.
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